I love Sayer. I have loved him for 17 years. We have built a family and a community together. I love that family & community are so important to him. Our family is awesome. We are the Mighty Mighty Johnsons! My hope is that there are many, many families like ours.
I had no idea that Sayer's transition would be a transition for me as well. I spent the first couple of years being a cheerleader for him, being so excited to see him on his journey. My recognition of the shift in my identity took me by surprise. How could I identify as a lesbian, with my husband beside me? I explored what 'sexuality' and 'sexual orientation' meant to me. I realized that more than the gender of my partner, it meant my politics, my beliefs, the way I move through the world. I now identify as Queer. I am enjoying navigating my life as a fierce, queer woman.